Parenting seems not to be what it used to be. Gone forever are the the days of the ideal home life, the perfect school, the six o'clock family dinner, the clear balance between discipline and autonomy, the knowledge of what you want for your child and what your child wants from him or her self. We now live in a world of multiple and complex parenting alternatives. There is no longer just one  answer. Our children have competition, peer pressure and uncertainty. In this world you strive to be the parent that helps your child develop his or her potential and achieve a level of social and moral responsibility. What is more important than your child? But you are stuck. You read all the books, been to parenting workshops, spoke with your friends, discussed issues with the teachers and are still unsure of what to do.  However, the answers to what you want for your child and how best to parent your child are within you. If you learn to listen deeply to yourself, you will find how you want to parent and how you have been stopping yourself from parenting the way you want.  Mostly it is not your child that is blocking you, but  you yourself. With Proactive Focusing you will gain the self awareness that will help you overcome your obstacles to becoming the parent you want to be.